Sometimes we need help. But a lot of us have a habit of not asking for help. And because we don’t ask for help, we don’t see the allies and mentors that are around us all the time – allies and mentors ready and happy to assist. Remember, that it is not a Hero’s Journey if you try and do it alone.
Sometimes you might feel that the world is against you, but that’s not true. The universe is always on our side. I am part of this universe. You are part of this universe. How could our very being be against us?
At a minimum, your body is an animal that is compelled to thrive. Your consciousness is always open and ready to expand. Put aside your mind’s negative habits for a moment.
Appreciate yourself as a being in this amazing place…
With an awareness that you are aware. Yowzah!
Barbara Sher, the author and speaker, died just last week, on May 10th. It is because of one of Barbara’s programs, I was able to publish my book, Exploring the Magic of your Hero’s Journey. I am very grateful to her for her unique approach to reaching your goals.
Barbara was a powerful speaker in that she was subtle, funny, and persistent in her message. Watch her TED talk as a starter if you don’t know her work. In one of her workshops, she told us participants to go up to someone you don’t know and ask her for a piece of paper or a pen to use. Imagine the auditorium with dozens of women and men, who all had pens and paper, milling around to find someone they didn’t know just to say, “Do you have a pen I can use?” or “Can I have a sheet of paper?”
After we all had completed the assignment she asked us to notice what we felt when we gave our pen or a piece of paper away. Notice how quickly our hesitancy to go up to a stranger disappeared when the tables were turned, and we were able to help another person. Barbara pointed out that when we don’t ask for help, we are depriving others of that wonderful feeling of connection. Stop and think of a time when you helped a charity, a stranger, an acquaintance, or a co-worker. It’s a great feeling, isn’t it?
So, the way this works is you now get to give that feeling to someone else. Sometime soon (maybe even right now), you’re going to be in a pickle/quandary/conundrum. Instead of holding it inside, reach out and ask for help. Call someone using the phone or Skype. Visit live if you can. Establish a live connection and let them help you, even if it’s just by being there and answering your call.
You will feel better, maybe have an answer, and will have given a great gift to another human being.