I listened to a podcast this week that said something to the effect that some people think colleges have become too feminized. Huh? The interviewer explained, the majority of students are now female (60%) and colleges are too liberal, too politically-correct, etc. Again, huh?
Want to insult a man? Call him a sissy or girly or a pussy.
Even me. I grew up identifying as a “tomboy.” I was proud not to be a “girly-girl.” I still feel that way right now, to be honest.
What is it about femininity that’s so bad? I am feeling some resistance, so I looked up the word “feminine” in the dictionary: traits pertaining to women, females, etc. But down in definition two is where I found what most people think of with that word, “the embodiment or conception of a timeless or idealized feminine nature.”
The dictionary doesn’t tell us this, but it may be what we have unconsciously decided.: I think: soft, pink, weak, submissive, attention on appearance rather than substance, superficial, doesn’t want to get dirty, and vulnerable. These traits are all comparisons to our conception of the standard as masculinity. Wow! Have I been acculturated.
The more I examine my own beliefs, the more I realize how limiting they have been. I re-read my own post from a few years back, “You Can’t be a Hero-You’re a Girl!” and I realized my argument (while valid, yes, women can do a Hero’s Journey) was based on not being feminine, but by leveraging our masculine traits. So, the tomboy women can Journey, but probably not the little princess. Yikes!
I apologize. To all the girls and women I judged and looked down upon, I’m sorry.
Photo by Etienne Marais: https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-statuette-during-golden-hour-194040/